HOPE WHO YOU ARE DATING IS ALSO DATING YOU?

The worst thing about being in a relationship, is when the relationship not being reciprocated, or the relationship being one sided without you knowing. Sometimes too the signs are usually there but you decide to ignore them. Many are in a relationship where they are the only one loving themselves without knowing. Any relationship of this nature, leaves either of the people in tears in no sooner than later time, wasted years, emotions etc.

A lady was in a relationship with a guy who was in another state of the country. They had met in a wedding of one her friends, got talking and began to date. They were really in love according to the lady. They go out to different places, have fun and enjoy themselves to the fullest. Based on the fact that both of them stay in different parts of the country, coupled with work and school, they usually see monthly, holidays or festive periods. This did not create any hindrance to their relationship.
The relationship went on for 3 years and the lady was expectant of engagement and marriage. The relationship survived on mostly the guy's financial muscles which made the lady fall madly inlove with the guy. The lady was still a student in the University so the guy took care of her bills from house rent, food, clothing and even extended to her friends and family.

Then on that faithful day, her birthday. It's 8 am already and no call or text from him. She waited more time expecting some kind of surprise from him. At exactly 12 noon, she called, "Sweetheart, it's my birthday and you have not even called nor texted what happened"? He replied. Sorry babe I left for work as early as 5am and have been busy since then. I just managed to pick your call now." Hmmm" she sighed. "anyway, what's up, how is day going to look like"? You have refused to say anything about it since". "Babe I have a lot to do here I won't be back till midnight and it would be difficult to be with you today. I'm sorry but not to worry, I will transfer you some money, just take yourself out, enjoy yourself with friends we will see by month end. Grudgingly, she hung up. In the evening, she became more lonely and bored that she couldn't bear it anymore that she borded the next vehicle to go see him, since she know where the guy keeps the keys to his house. She had wanted it to be a surprise to him when he eventually returns from work later in the midnight, so she didn't inform the guy of her coming. On her way, she bought things, got to the house, prepared a delicious soup, ate, watched movies till she slept off.

Later that night, around 2 am the supposed boyfriend came back home with a girl. They went straight to the bedroom, made out there and slept off. An hour 30 minutes later, the girlfriend who has been wondering why the guy is still not back up till that time decided to go have proper sleep in the bedroom. She switched on the light and was totally shocked when she saw her supposed boyfriend lying naked next to another woman. "Jesus!! she shouted. The noise woke them up. The guy started shouting at her. Why did you come without telling me? Did I ask you to come? The other lady just grabbed a wrapper, covered herself and went back to sleep. It was then that it dawned on her that she was just a side chick.
But the signs were there. The guy rarely call her, unless he wants to spend time with her, giving such excuses like "I don't like too much calls. They rarely go out together, unless bars and clubs. But since he sends her money anytime she ask and take care of her needs and bills, to her and many Nigerian women, they man so much love them.

There is the case of a guy who organized a birthday party for his supposed girlfriend, everything down to spices used to prepare the food was provided by the said rich guy. During the birthday celebration, The MC asked the celebrant to call on stage her boyfriend. She called out a different guy entirely. The number of bottles that broke that night and subsequent fights that ensued afterwards, is something I wouldn't want to discuss here. But the bottom line is, the guy was actually dating himself.

Then, the one of a radio programme where a caller will ask the radio presenters to call their lovers and give them gifts. The presenters will call the said lovers and inform them of their gift but they will have to say the name of their lover. In this particular case, the girl named Cynthia had asked the presenters to give her lover a gift. They put a call to the boyfriend, asked him to name the particular girlfriend. Surprisingly, the guy guessed 5 names without mentioning Cynthia. I could imagine how she must have felt that day, because the presenters used her as a point of discussion for the rest of the programme.
Life is full of shits and complications friends, so be sure who you are dating is also dating you. Everyone should endeavour to know who they are dating, test the relationship, be sure you are also loved the way u love your partner. Be very sure my brothers and sisters.
Princewill Chimereze.
Writer, Public affairs analyst and social commentator. 

BEYOND THE INDECENT PROPOSAL, A GREAT HOPE

BEYOND  THE  INDECENT  PROPOSAL, A GREAT HOPE

The post by Francis Van Lare, proposing a holiday with any married woman that her marriage is 10 years and below as well as cash price to the husband of the lady that would be chosen for it. The proposal was greeted with backlash from Nigerians who felfe married women that  accepted the proposal and was posting their pictures, had no respect for themselves, husband and families.

But as I was going through the comment, I saw a comment from a young girl that touched me greatly. The young lady was single and used the opportunity to pray and wish her future hubby well, that she will not trade him for any ransome.

This kind of ladies should be treasured. At a time of moral decadence as now witness, this lady deserve awards. A society where people care about their marital future, many men should been asking her hand in marriage, she should have been recognized by religious organizations, and other establishments in pursuit of morals and lasting relationship as a symbol to promote healthy marriage, moral and a better society.
I wish I have the financial muscle, I would have honored you Miss Ngozi Nwobu.   You have shown that even at a time when many ladies are becoming shameless due to money and material things, that there are still women who believes in the future and contentment in marriage. God will grant your heart desires.
As a show of respect, and the little I and some of my friends to use your picture on Facebook as our Display  Pix. 
We respect you.

Princewill Chimereze.
Writer, Public affairs Analyst and Social Commentator. 

LADIES TAKE CHARGE OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP THIS YEAR

LADIES TAKE CHARGE OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP THIS YEAR.

Many women sometimes don't know what relationship entails. To many of them, relationship is just something that goes on. A man asks me out, I agree, we go out, I do visit him, we make love and thats it. This has led to lots of heartbreak, disappointment and depression. It's time ladies take charge of their relationship. Many times women have left a huge part of the success of relationship with men and this trend must discontinue if women want to get to the goal of their relationship.

It's time to up your game in whatever you do in your relationship. Support your man to become a better person. What business is he doing? What is your contributions to the success of it. His career, how are you helping him climb to the top of it? What challenges is he facing in life, what are his fears? What makes him happy? This questions everyday begs for answers by a man.  Don't assume he can go through it all alone. Help him. Offer the little you can for the success of his career, business, help him overcome his fears, make him happy and let him know he will land on a foam if he eventually falls instead of a rock.

Be part of his life don't sit and watch. Sometimes fuel his car if you have the means. Get him something nice no matter how small ladies you can reshape the kitchen of your man, Offer value to his life. Redefine his room, his life and maybe his self worth. Show him you want to be with him and ready to be the woman he has ever dreamed of. The times we are now, is longer time for only demanding, offering of your body and or seeing yourself as doing a man favour by dating them. Reduce the high level of buying clothes, shoes, bags, latest gadgets and channell some this things in preparation for your tomorrow.

Show more commitment this year my dear ladies. No more fakery, too much artificialities, selfishness and “Give me Give me way of life”. Take time out and work on yourselves.  Shun some irrelevant programmes, online celebrity attention seeking, read books on how to improve your relationship instead of watching programmes of the lives of fake people on TV and meaningless hash tags. It's time to face realities.

This past Xmas, a lady came to me complaining of how her boyfriend is showing him attitude because Xmas is approaching so he won't get her gifts. I said what do you plan on getting him this Xmas and what have you gotten him since this year? She said it's the man that's supposed get a woman something. This lady in question works and finds it hard to contribute to the life of her boyfriend but prefers to buy any latest clothes, shoes and bag. The young man has sat to analyze his life from the start of the year and realized that what the said girlfriend has contributed to his life can also be gotten from any girl and has taken his decision.

My dear ladies it's time to take charge of your relationship, pray and wish for the best. I wish you the best in your relationship and wish to attend your wedding.

Princewill Chimereze

Writer, Public Affairs Analyst and Social Commentator

He can be followed on Twitter @P_Chimereze

Contact on amadiprincewill1@gmail.com

HOW TO CELEBRATE VAL WITH YOUR LOVER IF YOU ARE BROKE.

Though Valentine day was not intended for romantic relationships, but over the years lovers have hijacked it as a day of celebrating their love for one another and it seems it will forever remain so.

On valentine day, many people expects gifts from their lovers and maybe for the guy to take them out. (this is a Nigerian mentality though, as many western and developed nations have surpassed this "na man suppose take woman out" attitude). But due to the harsh economic condition and youth unemployment, valentine is sometimes not enjoyed by the poor and low income earners
Here are ways to go about the valentine day if u don't have money or broke.

On that day, try to do something no matter how small. On that day, clean your house in a new way possibly, some romantic arrangement with your lover's pix or pix of both of you together, hanged/pasted in diferent places in your room.

Lets assume you have 600 Naira with you, you can buy meat #200, two cups of rice, where i stay its #60 per cup, tin tomatoes and fresh one #100, Oil #50 and maggi #10 amounting to 480. Ask her to boil rice make stew with those foodstuffs that day. Allow her wear one of your T-shirts while she do the cooking then buy soft drinks with the remaining #120.
Enjoy the meal together with laughter, teasing, and feeding of each other. Please compliment her cooking.

If you are opportuned to have a tv/dvd watch some romantic movies or play music, If you don't have, play some party jamz with your phone so both of you can dancefor some hours and thereafter play some heart touching cool music (blues) like:
Forever – Paul Play
I swear – boyz to men
I swear – westlife
Don't brake ma heart – Banky W
Because you loved me – Celine Dion.

After the music, sit together on your bed, look into her eyes, hold her hands and let her know how your world have not remained the same since you met her, how you wish to see her grow old with you, how you cherish every moment you spend with her, that she owns your heart alone. Let her know that tomorrow will be better than today, that you will pay her patience and love with hardwork to give both of you a better future. Let her know its not by mr. Bigg's, shoprite, Tantalizers etc, but by what you truly feel down your heart and soul.

Retire to your bed late at night and spend the night the way you wish.

Happy Val in advance friends.

Princewill Chimereze.
Writter, Public Affairs Analyst and Social Commentator.
Twitter @P_Chimereze

"YOU WANT MR. RIGHT WHEN YOU ARE MISS. WRONG"

,Most times when you see a single lady and you engage her in a conversation on why she is not married, they often give many reasons but one that has most times formed their argument is that they have not seen ''Mr right''. When you probe further on what qualifies a man as Mr right? Then you are in for an answer that could rival any essay in a WAEC exam. You will such things as he must be tall, handsome, rich, treat me like a queen, must not be a cheat, and others to numerous to mention.

As they say, what is good for the goose is also good for the gander, many women want MR. RIGHT but are MISS WRONG. Equity demands that since you want Mr. Right, you should also be "Miss right" of strive to be one in order to strike a balance when you both finally meet or even to be ahead of other women in getting married.

Sadly enough, many women are "Miss Wrong". They don't have what it takes to be married. They want to get married but they still keep more than one man, many of these Mr right seeking ladies can't cook, clean the home, and do laundry. They lack rudimentary elements of how to make a successful home. A friend of mine just parted ways with a certain lady who each time she cooks, the oil used in preparing such meal will be enough to cook three different types of food. He has tried to teach her, but it appears there's no success in sight.

Some of these women have not improved themselves over the years to make a man consider them for marriage. Many over eat themselves and get unnecessarily fat and ugly, what to them is beauty is to fix all the artificialities of this world and engage in frivolous spending on irrelevant things. Some ladies, their wardrobe alone can start three boutiques in their street of which none of the money used in buying those things was sourced by them.


A lady that is up to marriage age should have something doing and has weaned herself off different bad characters. You don't expect to married to a Mr right and you are Miss wrong yourself are expecting to go and pollute his rightness or complement it. Will it be fair to be Miss wrong and you expect Mr right?

Princewill Chimereze.
@ P_ Chimereze. ,

Writer, Public Affairs Analyst,
Social Commentator.

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How Long Can You Be Faithful While Your Partner is Away

Relationship is about trust and the ability to stay put and be faithful to one another, but there are circumstances that can threaten or make one to find themselves in a tight corner where keeping to faithfulness and trust becomes a challenge.
Chinedu had been dating Ngozi and after his university, he traveled abroad but not with a Promise of coming back to marry Ngozi. At the airport, while crying, Ngozi pleaded with him not to abandon  her when he gets there. Chinedu in turn pleaded with her to be faithful and keep herself till he comes back.

Two years later, Chinedu came back from abroad and they continued to date. They started plans for their marriage ceremony. They both went to visit the lady that will handle their wedding decoration to discuss with her concerning logistics and every other thing involved in decorating the occasion. On getting there, the husband of the lady saddled with the decoration happens to be around too and he knows the man they 've both met before while Chinedu was applying for Visa. After the discussion, as they were about leaving, Chinedu and the decorator's husband were discussing when he asked if that was the lady he wants to get married to? Yes.. He said. Any problem? Isn't she beautiful? No not that, the man replied just that this same lady at sometime usually visit a friend of mine and sometimes spend weeks with him. Are you sure about this? Chinedu asked. Why would i lie? Its ok no problem Chinedu replied.

Chinedu got home, sat on his couch and was so worried. Ngozi came in and asked what the problem was and he said nothing that he is just imagining their wedding day. Early morning the next day, he woke his fiancee. Did you sleep with anybody since i 've been away? He asked. "No why would i do that"? Please don't lie to me. Then what did you go to do at 15. Chidiaown Street and even spent a week there.

By this time she started crying. Please forgive me it was during the the last one month to your coming back. There was this guy that kept pestering me i tried my best in resisting him but it was not easy two years without anyone to make me feel like a woman. Am a human being the urge was too much for me please forgive me my love. Since then i 've called it off with him. How could you? Chinedu asked you promised me you would be faithful why? Why? Since you did not keep to your words this marriage is canceled.

Ladies, what is your take on this? How long can you be faithful when your partner is not around?    

Princewill Chimereze.
Writer, Public Affairs Analyst and Social Commentator.                      

Have Women of Today Lost Their Usefulness?

Marriage, in God's own intent, was for a complimentary and supportive reasons. Whether such reasons have formed the basis for people getting married is a discuss that should be critically looked at.
One of my Uncle who travelled abroad came back to search for a wife after which he took her to settle back in Lagos. He had already planned his marriage right from the onset that he will make-do with four children no matter their gender. Eight years into the marriage they are already done with child bearing.    

Both of us were discussing recently and he brought the issue of his marriage. He told me he is tired of marriage but was not considering divorce. I enquired why he  has suddenly gotten tired of his marriage? He told me he sees no reason for marriage other than to make babies. That he has gained nothing special from the wife since he got married to her other than her boobs which he can't stop sucking, taking her to functions to intmidate other guys with her beauty and enddowments.

The story of my uncle above, sums up the life of some modern women. A situation whereby a young guy struggles through school, or whatever he choses to do, sometimes, no lady will accept him because he has nothing or give him support to get to where he is going. He graduates from school, eventually gets a job, grows his career/profession/business and decides to settle down.

He gets married to a woman who had no form of contribution to height he has reached in life, she come into his house start making babies for him, satisfy his sexual urge, cook, take care of the babies and thats it. When the kids grow up and can cater for themselves what next for her in the marriage. When challenges come, maybe at workplace, family or everyday normal challenges, some guys think outside the box and solve their own problem without any meaningful contribution from the wife. That is the emotional support which is another reason why theres marriage but some guys hadly rely on it to continue their life. Financially, some men have designed themselves in a way that the income of their spouse don't count in the marriage(that's when they work).

Many guys have argued that some of the reasons for marriage can be gotten outside even without a wedlock, you can bear children with a lady, fund her to take care of them, get a cook, and even have chance of banging different big backside if you so wish so what then is the need for marriage?

From this foregoing, women should start moulding themselves into relevant, intelligent and would be supportive wife.  Some women should stop waiting for a man to come out of the blues to come and marry them. When a man comes to you for marriage, get to know him better before you say i do that way you can find creative ways of being supportive to him throughout your marriage journey.

Women should not only focus on their own career before their husband comes along or engage in fashionist or fashionmonger way of life but carefully draw a plan of how their family would look like, identify with a man who tends or exhibit such traits of a man you would like to spend the rest of your life with and build up a relationship with him that way he won't see you as just another silverware added to his cabinet.      
  

She is In Love With Her Brother And About to Sleep With Him

While growing up, Jane had fantasized about so many things, at a very young age she had started seeing romantic movies and reading romantic novels.

 When she got

How Many Men Is Too Much For a Lady To Have Slept With Before She Get Married

The issue of a woman's past life sometimes determine her future and most times too, affect how serious a man will take them. Some ladies have spent their lives choosing and realy being careful of how they date and the men they sleep with before they get married. While some, have decided to just live their life without minding whatever consequences that might arise from such way of life.


I have always wondered how many men is ideal for a woman to must have had gone down under their sheet before she eventually get married. By woman, i don't mean a prostitute but an everyday woman or the lady next door as the case may be.


 I have a lady friend who started tasting the forbidden fruit right  from sixteen (16) years oldold when she was in SS1. Now she is twenty (20) and has slept with 13 men. She is neither a runs girl nor a prostitute but this are guys that she met on diferent places and platforms. The social media like 2go, Facebook, Twitter Eskimi, Badoo etc. Did not help matters as she said.



 Recently, she called me to inform me that she has gotten admission into the University after several attempts that failed. As we were discussing she told me she was going to flex hard and have lots of fun. I said ''u go blow tire na" she said "before nko.If a lady who had already tasted 13 different men from 16-20 years and now in the university, how many men will she sleep with before she graduates? Lets say she minimises her level of libido and decides to make it one guy in each year in school then on her graduation day she must have slept with 17 men in total. Lets also assume she did not get married after her graduation but 3 years later, then your guess is as good as mine.


 Now, i've always pondered within myself on the issue of how many men is too much for a woman to have slept with before she finally decides to settle down.

 Friends, what do you have to contribute? 

Princewill Chimereze.

Writter, Facilitator, Public Affairs Analyst and Social Commentator.