The worst thing about being in a relationship, is when the relationship not being reciprocated, or the relationship being one sided without you knowing. Sometimes too the signs are usually there but you decide to ignore them. Many are in a relationship where they are the only one loving themselves without knowing. Any relationship of this nature, leaves either of the people in tears in no sooner than later time, wasted years, emotions etc.
A lady was in a relationship with a guy who was in another state of the country. They had met in a wedding of one her friends, got talking and began to date. They were really in love according to the lady. They go out to different places, have fun and enjoy themselves to the fullest. Based on the fact that both of them stay in different parts of the country, coupled with work and school, they usually see monthly, holidays or festive periods. This did not create any hindrance to their relationship.
The relationship went on for 3 years and the lady was expectant of engagement and marriage. The relationship survived on mostly the guy's financial muscles which made the lady fall madly inlove with the guy. The lady was still a student in the University so the guy took care of her bills from house rent, food, clothing and even extended to her friends and family.
Then on that faithful day, her birthday. It's 8 am already and no call or text from him. She waited more time expecting some kind of surprise from him. At exactly 12 noon, she called, "Sweetheart, it's my birthday and you have not even called nor texted what happened"? He replied. Sorry babe I left for work as early as 5am and have been busy since then. I just managed to pick your call now." Hmmm" she sighed. "anyway, what's up, how is day going to look like"? You have refused to say anything about it since". "Babe I have a lot to do here I won't be back till midnight and it would be difficult to be with you today. I'm sorry but not to worry, I will transfer you some money, just take yourself out, enjoy yourself with friends we will see by month end. Grudgingly, she hung up. In the evening, she became more lonely and bored that she couldn't bear it anymore that she borded the next vehicle to go see him, since she know where the guy keeps the keys to his house. She had wanted it to be a surprise to him when he eventually returns from work later in the midnight, so she didn't inform the guy of her coming. On her way, she bought things, got to the house, prepared a delicious soup, ate, watched movies till she slept off.
Later that night, around 2 am the supposed boyfriend came back home with a girl. They went straight to the bedroom, made out there and slept off. An hour 30 minutes later, the girlfriend who has been wondering why the guy is still not back up till that time decided to go have proper sleep in the bedroom. She switched on the light and was totally shocked when she saw her supposed boyfriend lying naked next to another woman. "Jesus!! she shouted. The noise woke them up. The guy started shouting at her. Why did you come without telling me? Did I ask you to come? The other lady just grabbed a wrapper, covered herself and went back to sleep. It was then that it dawned on her that she was just a side chick.
But the signs were there. The guy rarely call her, unless he wants to spend time with her, giving such excuses like "I don't like too much calls. They rarely go out together, unless bars and clubs. But since he sends her money anytime she ask and take care of her needs and bills, to her and many Nigerian women, they man so much love them.
There is the case of a guy who organized a birthday party for his supposed girlfriend, everything down to spices used to prepare the food was provided by the said rich guy. During the birthday celebration, The MC asked the celebrant to call on stage her boyfriend. She called out a different guy entirely. The number of bottles that broke that night and subsequent fights that ensued afterwards, is something I wouldn't want to discuss here. But the bottom line is, the guy was actually dating himself.
Then, the one of a radio programme where a caller will ask the radio presenters to call their lovers and give them gifts. The presenters will call the said lovers and inform them of their gift but they will have to say the name of their lover. In this particular case, the girl named Cynthia had asked the presenters to give her lover a gift. They put a call to the boyfriend, asked him to name the particular girlfriend. Surprisingly, the guy guessed 5 names without mentioning Cynthia. I could imagine how she must have felt that day, because the presenters used her as a point of discussion for the rest of the programme.
Life is full of shits and complications friends, so be sure who you are dating is also dating you. Everyone should endeavour to know who they are dating, test the relationship, be sure you are also loved the way u love your partner. Be very sure my brothers and sisters.
Princewill Chimereze.
Writer, Public affairs analyst and social commentator.
