Marriage, in God's own intent, was for a complimentary and supportive reasons. Whether such reasons have formed the basis for people getting married is a discuss that should be critically looked at.
One of my Uncle who travelled abroad came back to search for a wife after which he took her to settle back in Lagos. He had already planned his marriage right from the onset that he will make-do with four children no matter their gender. Eight years into the marriage they are already done with child bearing.
Both of us were discussing recently and he brought the issue of his marriage. He told me he is tired of marriage but was not considering divorce. I enquired why he has suddenly gotten tired of his marriage? He told me he sees no reason for marriage other than to make babies. That he has gained nothing special from the wife since he got married to her other than her boobs which he can't stop sucking, taking her to functions to intmidate other guys with her beauty and enddowments.
The story of my uncle above, sums up the life of some modern women. A situation whereby a young guy struggles through school, or whatever he choses to do, sometimes, no lady will accept him because he has nothing or give him support to get to where he is going. He graduates from school, eventually gets a job, grows his career/profession/business and decides to settle down.
He gets married to a woman who had no form of contribution to height he has reached in life, she come into his house start making babies for him, satisfy his sexual urge, cook, take care of the babies and thats it. When the kids grow up and can cater for themselves what next for her in the marriage. When challenges come, maybe at workplace, family or everyday normal challenges, some guys think outside the box and solve their own problem without any meaningful contribution from the wife. That is the emotional support which is another reason why theres marriage but some guys hadly rely on it to continue their life. Financially, some men have designed themselves in a way that the income of their spouse don't count in the marriage(that's when they work).
Many guys have argued that some of the reasons for marriage can be gotten outside even without a wedlock, you can bear children with a lady, fund her to take care of them, get a cook, and even have chance of banging different big backside if you so wish so what then is the need for marriage?
From this foregoing, women should start moulding themselves into relevant, intelligent and would be supportive wife. Some women should stop waiting for a man to come out of the blues to come and marry them. When a man comes to you for marriage, get to know him better before you say i do that way you can find creative ways of being supportive to him throughout your marriage journey.
Women should not only focus on their own career before their husband comes along or engage in fashionist or fashionmonger way of life but carefully draw a plan of how their family would look like, identify with a man who tends or exhibit such traits of a man you would like to spend the rest of your life with and build up a relationship with him that way he won't see you as just another silverware added to his cabinet.
